Banana Splits is a support group, a program
originated by Elizabeth M. McGonagle, for students who have experienced
a family change such as a divorce, separation, or death of an immediate
family member. Banana Splits has been in existence at Voorheesville for
over 10 years. This group is offered to all students in grades 1-5.
Banana Splits meets during lunch by grade level every other week from
late September through May. At this time, over 30 students take part in
Banana Splits at Voorheesville Elementary. Most groups include
approximately 6-8 children.
Banana Splits is an excellent opportunity for students to share their
experiences with others, explore feelings, and be supported by their
peers. Activities range from biblio- therapy to art projects to board
games. Discussions usually relate to feelings about the divorce, dealing
with stepparents and blended families, as well as visitations.
Children at Voorheesville Elementary look forward to the end of the year
picnic that takes place in early June each year. Of course, the grand
finale of the picnic is the actual eating of Banana Splits Sundaes.
Talking To Children About Divorce
Parents can be an important source of help and
comfort to their children as they adjust to family changes.
Explain the reason for the divorce. Sometimes
children assume that divorce is their fault.
Reassure children that they are loved and will
always be cared for.
Arrange routine visits with the non-custodial
parent whenever possible.
Remember that parents get a divorce, not
children.
Go slowly into new relationships, insuring that
children know that they will not be replaced by new loved ones.
Don't talk negatively about the other parent in
front of children. It's not fair to the child. Set a good example by
treating each other with respect. This will show your child that
problems can be resolved peacefully.· Don't argue in front of
children. Arguments can be scary to children, and can cause them to
worry about things that only adults should be thinking about.· Don't
use children as messengers. Divorce is confusing to children, and
often makes them feel torn between both parents. They have enough
things to work through during a separation or divorce.
